13 Ways To Know If You Dating A Boy Or A Real Man

Dating is a dicey game. And boys cannot always remain boys. Although, some of them try really hard to not grow up, there comes a time when most boys grow up and man up. And here’s a handy guide to tell the difference. You’re most welcome.

1. He’s ready to love you and only you.

A real man knows what he wants in a partner, and once he has found that special someone, he commits himself and his whole life to them. Your happiness becomes his happiness. He stays loyal to you because he understands that one true love is enough for a lifetime.

2. What they look for in women

A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

3. They Trust women

A man is easy to trust because he is open and honest. His girlfriend, fiancée, or whoever she may be will not have to worry he might go rogue and ditch her for a blond bimbo on a whim. He isn’t putting his phone on “do not disturb” in the presence of his significant other or checking out for hours on end with no real explanation. A trustworthy man doesn’t risk losing a good girl by being shady.

4. How they plan for the future

A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life).  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.

5. Why they fight

A fight can really help you identify the difference between a boy and a man. You’re dating a boy if he picks up a fight on every irrational little thing. For instance, you’re talking with someone becomes you flirting. A man, on the other hand, knows when to bring up an issue and he makes valid points to support the same.

6. Their choice in women

A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

7. He is completely honest and open with you.

Indeed, a man’s honesty brings out his most vulnerable side. Whether his lover would take that part of him and embrace it or trample on it, he will never know. This is why honesty often takes more than it seems, and only a real man who is humble and sincere has the capacity to offer that to you. Not just because he trusts you, but also because he respects your desire for more of him.

8. They Respect women

A man is always respectful to his lady. This includes respecting her feelings, overcommunicating when necessary, respecting her family and friends, respecting what she stands for, and respecting who she is as a person. This is not to say he agrees with and loves everything about her, but he respects her enough to appreciate her differences. He doesn’t try to change her or manipulate her to what he wants her to be. A man like this deserves mutual respect.

9. Through their conversations with a woman

A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.

10. From their definition of commitment

For boys, a relationship only means ‘hanging out’. They want to go around with you, flaunt you as a girlfriend, and want to have a good time. For men, a relationship means more than ‘hanging out’. The word ‘marriage’ doesn’t scare them and they have no problem with the idea of commitment.

11. Their Confidence

A man is confident, a boy is insecure. Sure, there are PLENTY of cocky dudes running around acting like they have all the confidence in the world, but there is a real difference between the guy who gets his validation from his latest selfie and the guy who is confident because he knows who he is and what he wants. A confident man never needs to play the game with a woman to gain the upper hand, he knows what he brings to the table and that speaks for itself.

12. Their Apologies

A man knows when he is wrong and apologizes rather than the guys who break your heart and act like it’s no skin off their back. A man knows that no one is perfect, including himself, and knows that he won’t lose any of his “manhood” by admitting he was wrong.

13. Boys love to play the blame game. Men shoulder responsibilities

If something goes wrong, boys never take responsibility. They pass the blame on you and get out of the situation. Men will not shrug responsibilities off their shoulders, but will stand by them. If something goes wrong, they will face it and try to rectify it.